Title: In Every Moment We Are Still Alive
Author: Tom Malmquist
Publish Date: January 1, 2018
# of Pages: 288
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(From Goodreads) A prize-winning, bestselling debut of love, loss, and family–based on a true story–is winning readers around the world.
When Tom’s heavily pregnant girlfriend Karin is rushed to the hospital, doctors are able to save the baby. But they are helpless to save Karin from what turns out to be acute Leukemia. And in a crule, fleeting moment Tom gains a daughter but loses his soul-mate. In Every Moment We Are Alive is the story of the year that changes everything, as Tom must reconcile the fury and pain of loss with the overwhelming responsibility of raising his daughter, Livia, alone.
By turns tragic and redemptive, meditative and breathless, achingly poignant and darkly funny, this autobiographical novel has been described as ‘hypnotic’, ‘impossible to resist’ and ‘one of the most powerful books about grief ever written’.
Rating (1-10, 10 is exceptional)
Quality of Writing – 4
Pace – 9
Enjoyability – 6
Insightfulness – 7
Ease of Reading – 6
Overall Rating – ⭐️⭐️⭐️
In Every Moment We Are Still Alive by Tom Malmquist is a heartbreaking memoir of love, loss, and grief.
I enjoyed reading this memoir. It is an intimate portrait of Tom’s life as he deals with the loss of his partner in life, Karin, days after the birth of their daughter, Livia. Parts of it were hard to read. It’s always difficult to read the passing of someone so young, especially when it happens so suddenly and dramatically. And to have a newborn infant on top of it is utterly heartbreaking. Livia will never know her mother, but Tom seems to step it up as a single parent in the midst of the devastation as best as he can.
The writing style was admittedly hard to get used to. There are no chapters or divisions in the memoir. It has the rambling free-flowing style of a long poem, which makes sense, because the author is a poet. The writing style is very much stream of consciousness. It’s disjointed and jumps from past to present from one paragraph to the next. On one hand, the disorganized timeline made it hard to read. On the other hand, it was a firsthand look at how fragmented the mind can be when under strain, stress, and grief. The presentation was very raw.
The pacing of the book was quick. I read this book in two days and could have easily read it in a single sitting, had I the time. I appreciated the swiftness of the story. The events unfolded quickly and kept you interested all the way through.
I would say the memoir is an insightful study of grief and stress. Being a new parent is hard enough. Getting thrown into single-parenthood because your significant other passed away unexpectedly is a whole different level of stress. I have nothing but praise and respect for Tom and how he managed to pull through in such a tough situation.
If you like memoirs, check into this one. While I struggled with the way it was written, I still enjoyed it.
Thank you to NetGalley for providing the Kindle version of this book in exchange for an honest review.
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